It surprises me how many people still want to bareback. Does anyone know the dangers, or is it just me? Sure I might be over-reacting, but statistics have been showing a steady rise in HIV infections – especially in the younger ages! So when I asked someone to wear a condom when fucking me, I bloody well expect them to leave it on.
I’ve recently gone through the experience of realising someone had removed a condom without asking or notifying me during sex. Not only that, but this is directly after a conversation I had with this guy informing him if ‘he didn’t want to use a condom, we won’t be having sex’. My exact words.
As it turns out, he’d removed it half way through, preceded to fuck me and finish off inside me. It wasn’t until I found an empty condom on the floor that I’d realised what this cunt had done. So, next morning, straight to the clinic I go! Sure, he told me he was negative, but if I couldn’t trust him to simply keep a condom on, I’m pretty sure I couldn’t trust him as far as I could kick him. Hell – I didn’t know where this guy had been!?
This got me thinking; why do so many insist on having bareback with so many risks involved? Don’t get me wrong, I certainly do love it, but I only ever do it with people I’m involved with – providing we are both not sleeping with other people.
I’ve been told recently that, “Because there is so much around us that detaches us from other people, not using a condom brings you so much closer to the partner and makes sex more personal again, and less mechanic”. I guess that is true, surely we all love being close to someone.
I guess what it comes down to is trust and safety, and perhaps stupidity. In my opinion, keep bareback special. Keep it for someone you trust. Keep it for your boyfriend – If you even believe in that…
Or just use a fucking rubber.
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It always surprises me when using a condom *isn’t* second nature to someone. No pun intended but it’s drilled into us so much (thankfully) that it really should be second nature.
But is it really drilled into all of us? I don’t ever remember a condom demonstration at my conservative, catholic high school. Condom usage really needs to be something taught by parents, and not left to schools who often have their own moral agendas.
We hear so many of these stories lately, I’m beginning to wonder if the law must be changed to be harder on this kind of offence.
James, I was angry just reading your story! I don’t know what I would have done if I were you, most likely I would have punched him in the face (and I’m never a violent person!). That stupid cunt.
Sorry to get all Germaine Greer on everyone but it’s interesting how often you refer to this guy as a “cunt”. Sure, I understand that James is gay and most likely (most definitely?) wouldn’t like a vagina but are they so bad that they’re now insults? Stick to your own team and call this guy a “dick” instead.
Just saying.
shut it, cunt.
Your comments re when you do not use condoms are irresponsible.
“This got me thinking; why do so many insist on having bareback with so many risks involved? Don’t get me wrong, I certainly do love it, but I only ever do it with people I’m involved with – providing we are both not sleeping with other people.”
This goes against ALL the laws of common sense. How do we know that ones “boyfriend” is not sleeping around?
Cute avatars though!
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