... ok - this image MIGHT be an exaggeration...
Right when I thought I might be interested in continuing to see a certain someone, a boy who was keen to date me for months [who I wasn’t interested in] said to me “I’ll give you one piece of advice – if in doubt – GET OUT!” At the time I thought, “sure, that sounds simple enough…” but it wasn’t until I actually found myself in that position that giving up or getting out could be so hard…
I love spooning. Like – you have no idea how much I love it. I’m putting it right next to roast lamb and the Google Map application on the iPhone. And I don’t care how hot it is – if you like spooning too, you will become SO sweaty that it turns sexy. So one morning when I lay my hand on the boy I hear “James, I’m trying to sleep”, is probably a sign to get out. So I did – and went downstairs to read the paper. If you’re too hot – take off the fucking doona.
Now – the continuous debate on what speed a relationship should move [don’t worry, there’s a blog on this coming up soon]. I am notoriously known for moving too fast, and I thought I’d learnt my lesson. So when we were seeing each other once, sometimes twice a week, I thought I was doing the right thing. That’s why I totally wasn’t expecting the “YOU CALL THIS SLOW?” comment one Sunday afternoon. Yep – this is probably another sign…
Other signs include making plans on meeting his friends being cancelled and comments like “I’m going to be really busy” and “I’m tired” – All, of course, could be coincidence.
You know it’s definitely time to get out when you start taking relationship advice from your straight mates [no offence boys]. They were the only ones giving me the advice I actually wanted to hear – that’s another sign…
So why did do we keep going on with the merry-go-round when we know it’s not going to work? Well, I wanted it to work, and I didn’t want to take the risk of ‘over-thinking’ the situation and making a wrong move.
If you’re not interested, do the best thing and break it off, because you see – some of us hang on trying to re-live the fun that happened in the past.
As it turns out, I may have been overreacting with this whole situation and the boy in question may not have been intentionally trying to bring the relationship to an end. I feel though, if these things are happening subconsciously; it’s probably best move on and get out.
Even if it will be a stab in the heart.
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